When you ask someone what they’re looking for in a potential spouse, it’s not uncommon for them to mention the tangible things they’re seeking. These things include a degree, a job, a place to live, etc. There may also be some character traits thrown in there (e.g. faithfulness, spirituality, and kindness), but tangibles are almost always a given.
Men are bombarded by horror stories of marriages-gone-wrong in which a man’s ex-wife walks away with half of his life savings and makes it ridiculously difficult for him to spend time with his children. Sadly, our justice system oftentimes works in the favor of women, even if the woman shows a history of instability and/or jealousy. Since the justice system fails men, the only other way they can work to protect themselves from the horror of losing access to their children and everything they’ve worked hard for is to be very judicious in their choice of a spouse. Instead of being blindsighted by a vile woman who has a beautiful exterior, men can learn to make adjustments in areas that have short-term value so that they can benefit from the long-term value in their partner. Check out the four things to look for in a potential wife below:
- Added Value- Whomever you decide to commit to must bring value to your life. This value must be significant in that it enables you to become a better person. This value can be easily pinpointed and measured. This is important because you don’t want to be trapped in a “Basketball Wives” scenario in which the most significant things your spouse bring to the table are intimacy and an ego boost. Your spouse is your partner. She works hard, alongside you, to bring value to the relationship.
- Discernment- You should be able to trust your wife’s foresight and ability to make decisions. This is especially true when it comes to managing the finances in your relationship. Will she spend the money saved for your children’s college fund on retail therapy? Will she even suggest having savings accounts set-up for emergencies and college savings? Or will she suggest moving the family into a smaller home to save more money in the event of financial trouble? If you do not believe you can trust your lover’s ability to foresee things beyond today and make recommendations based upon her foresight, she is not the woman you should marry.
- Communicative- You should be proud to marry a woman who is able to communicate her concerns/feelings/thoughts to you in a way that makes you want to listen to her. She’s able to get your attention without being condescending, rude, and/or belligerent. A woman who yells at you or doesn’t talk at all is not a woman you should consider marrying.
- Consistency- Your wife should be the one person you know that you can always count on, no matter what. If she cooks breakfast for you every morning, even after a disagreement the night before and/or if she doesn’t feel like it, she’s the woman you don’t ever want to lose. If she doesn’t uphold her promises based off of a disagreement, what else will she do when things do not go her way in the relationship?
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