She recently caused a stir with her opinion on women proposing to men they feel like dating, where she emphatically urged her fellow ladies to go all out to grab the men of their dreams. This brought opposing views with each side defending their take with various views on the topic.
The Tv personality and country director of Heritage Ghana, Nana Hemaa Acheampomaa, once again in a chat with Newsybase.com has revealed she doesn’t see anything wrong with sex on a first date and warn ladies to stop acting and face reality. This is really fascinating and we are sure most ladies, most especially Ghanaian ladies will totally disagree with Nana, who is gradually becoming a ‘social media relationship expert’.
Nana Hemaa Acheampong in an extensive interview with Newsybase.com has stated that intimacy on the first date is not wrong but ladies should open up to the matured guys. According to her, ladies should stop acting and face reality when they go out on a date.”Love making on the first date is not bad at all but it’s for matured people. This is no big deal so we should stop acting funny” she said.
Many relationship has collapsed due to sex on a first date which sometimes end up with one showing disrespect to the other. Ladies are the victims most of the time, where people criticize their action or refer to them as been cheap or looked down upon.
But Nana Hemaa had a different perception to this and she shared with us; “There is nothing like cheap woman in this world. It depends on how she carries herself around and sex on a first date has got nothing to do with that. It doesn’t affect your status in any way, unless you end up with a wrong guy. Just play safe and get out of your ‘movie character”
She continued: “There are a lot of things that goes into dating. I am sure no one will just wake up and visit a guy and sleep with them. Before you accept to go out on a date, you might have probably be in touch for some time and during this period,you exchange some romantic words which in a way gets you into the person. So as your affection grow for each other, it is likely to lead into it when you meet on the first date especially when the connection is there and the environment also leads you on”.
She further stated that she’s not asking ladies to give in even when they don’t want it or not in the mood for it but there’s this character in most ladies that’s really funny because of that perception. “You shouldn’t be forced. It should be on a mutual agreement. If there is the move and you don’t want it,just let the person know you are not interested but if you allow it to happen,don’t kill yourself over it. I don’t see why we should be worried and allow that to break us down to even affect the relationship we intended building. If someone really respect you in a relationship, he or she won’t leave you because you slept with them on the first date. Because of the critics we have in our society, this part of the world where we come from,you might feel bad sometimes but it shouldn’t break you down. You guys should sit down and talk over and move on in the relationship”.
Asked if it wont break respect and longevity of the relationship you just started, she said “if a guy has evil intention about you, no matter the longest time you go before giving in, he will still disrespect you and hurt your feelings by dumping you. When he really adore you and love you that much, it can even strengthen his love for you. So to everything, there is two sides of the coin to it”.
The Miss Heritage boss asked ladies to be very sure at the maturity level of the guys they accept to go out with. “Relationship is not just an “I love you..I accept” affair. We must know that every relationship is a potential marriage grounds hence we must choose wisely so we don’t get into emotional trauma when this things happen. We must talk deeply into things with our partners to know their level of thinking and reasoning”.
Touching on her fellow ladies being the victims most of the times and been refered to as cheap, she just had one sentence for the guys who do that “they are just not matured and opportunists. Every man who calls a woman cheap for giving in for his sexual demand on a first date is not matured. Cheap product admirers go in for cheap products. So if a lady gives in to your demand and you feel you are expensive, be a boss and stop it but if you finish and later call her cheap,then you are the cheapest”.
Ending her chat with Newsbybase.come, she gave an advice to ladies “if you accept to go on a date with a guy in his house,fine tune your mind for anything because few men can hold up when you look extremely attractive on a first date. It’s either you go with him to an open place but if its his house, anything can happen and if it does, don’t kill yourself, enjoy the moment. Carry yourself maturely after that and don’t use it against the guy in the relationship. Work towards the relationship and you will be good to go but make sure you do with a matured head”.
Nana Hemaa Acheampomaa
